My condemnation injures me! Really?
Realizing that the condemnation I might heap on another can injure myself is hard to believe but let’s investigate it further.
If I hold a grievance against someone for something they did or didn’t do and I avoid that person, crossing the street, or going to the other end of the store to avoid them means I am not free.
I am in a sort of pain and don’t want to recognize it. As long as I see someone as ________ (fill in the blank) my mind is locked and a locked mind is suffering and it is not free, even though it may not realize it.
When I condemn someone I am the prisoner. I am the prisoner of my own judgment. I am projecting _______on them rather than recognizing it in myself. I project out onto someone else, something distasteful; not recognizing it is within me as well.
When we decide to choose peace, we commit to be being truthful with ourselves and acknowledge the condemnations when they come up. And they always do! Do I want to give up the condemnations/judgments in order to have peace? Yes I do!
Crossing the street to avoid someone is a wakeup call. It is a call to stop the condemnation and recognize it is time to change my mind about this “enemy” that I have not wanted to recognize. We look at the problem, see it, let it go and do not UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES accept guilt in its place. Then laugh!
The book A Course In Miracles, says in lesson 198. Only my condemnation injures me.
“Condemn and you are a prisoner of your thoughts. Forgive and you are freed. This is the law that rules projection. Forgiveness sweeps dreams away. Forgiveness is a dream too but it breeds no others. Illusions now end. Forgiveness is the dream of waking. It is God’s plan. You hold the answer to your problems in your hands.”
The method of forgiveness that works for me is to sit quietly, eyes closed. I visualize the person in my mind. I see myself embracing them and saying
“You are loved along with me. We are equals; we are equally loved by our Creator. I hold you in the light of love.”
When we commit to choosing peace we are vigilant for the little condemnations that arise in the mind. When one comes up say:
“Ah ha! Gotcha ego.” And do the work to free yourself from the silliness it is.
To read or hear lesson 198 go to www.acim.org and click on workbook lessons and then the list. When the lesson comes up click on “hear”
Keep watching your powerful mind and thoughts.
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