You get to keep it forever

Some of my dearest friends live in Roseburg and in the wake of yesterday’s shootings, a permeating and tangible flood of love is pouring into their community. I found this promise in my hymnal – “Earth has no sorrow but Love can remove.” With that sparkle of hope, I share my own experience of love removing sorrow and my prayers for the dear families and friends of Roseburg.

She left us abruptly and without warning. I was advised to be grateful that she didn’t suffer.

That didn’t help.

The temptation was to turn inward, to wallow in the dark side of losing my mother. I found myself anticipating and fixated on an unfillable void. The future, how would it look and feel? I sat in front of the blank computer screen with a “very loud” proverbial clock ticking off the minutes before the memorial. Friends told me I didn’t have to say anything.

But I desperately wanted to get above the emotional upheaval. I wanted to share a sense of comfort with everyone. I knew that love would win.

An email from an insightful friend appeared in my inbox.

“Karla, when I was praying about your mom, I saw that everything you love about her, you get to keep. Why? Because she didn’t create any of the qualities you love in her; she reflects those qualities. God is with you and all of His goodness and love expressed in your mom is yours forever. Just as the moon doesn’t create light on its own, but only reflects it, your mom doesn’t create love; she just reflects it. The love that she loved you with was actually God’s reflected love. God and that love is still enveloping you.”

After I read those words, the eulogy just poured out and with that, came the confidence and grace to stand up and read it to a grateful group of friends who found in it, their own comfort and healing. I too felt deeply loved.

In my experience since, I’ve learned that our culture carries high expectations for the aggrieved; expectations that we may take for granted or as a normal process. Recent findings are concluding, though, that grief is not a linear, finite project which can be summed up in a series of stages such as denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. In his January 10, 2015, NYTimes blog, “Getting grief right”, psychotherapist Patrick O’Malley, opines on the traditional grieving process. “THAT model is still deeply and rigidly embedded in our cultural consciousness and psychological language.”

Based on his own loss of a loved one, O’Malley has dropped that model and now works with an approach which reveres the deep love shared with the deceased.

I too have found that deep love is key in overcoming grief. Grief leaves little room in one’s heart for the anticipation of goodness, but unconditional love can break the stranglehold of grief and give the aggrieved a crack of light through which anticipated goodness can shine. Those simple concepts shared with me in the email helped me to break through the darkness of grief. I realized that God’s expression of love is constantly embracing us, but to experience this, especially after a death, God’s love cannot be sought in a physical body. In praying to overcome grief after my mother’s passing, I found that I had to look with faith for a reflected love that a body can’t provide. I had to look for inspiration in unexpected experiences, for moments of patient grace, for previously unnoticed outpourings of love that came in many ways. I had to get out of that negative fixation and really look for God’s tender care in every moment.

I had a faint inkling of what I needed to do. Several years prior, I lost a close companion unexpectedly and I dreaded her continued absence. In my prayers one night, I asked God to free me from obsessing about the picture memories that kept replaying in my subconscious. Instead, I cherished all of her non-physical qualities, qualities like companionship, joy, forgiveness, spontaneity, etc. It really helped me be much freer more quickly than I thought possible. I learned a valuable lesson about prayerfully seeking and being grateful for the spiritual qualities of a close companion rather than replaying the physical memories.

I’ve discovered that one of the most profound examples we have of “grief overcome” is that of Jesus’ foreshadowed departure. So tenderly, he reassures his disciples, “Nevertheless I tell you the truth; It is expedient for you that I go away: for if I go not away, the Comforter will not come unto you; but if I depart, I will send him unto you.” (John 16:7 KJV)

By opening his disciples’ hearts to the anticipation of comfort and an even greater good, he prepared them for their futures – healing their fellow man, coming together in the Pentecost, and establishing the Christian church. Jesus blessed his disciples with the love he reflected from God, and despite Jesus’ bodily absence, they got to keep that love!

Even today God continues to guide and comfort, regardless of the circumstance.

The same Love is embracing each of us right now. It needs no physical body, it doesn’t rely on human habits or history. It doesn’t matter how we assess the stages of overcoming the grip of grief and the pain of loss. Our loved ones have always reflected God’s love – they represent God’s tender care for us.

We have Jesus’ promise, “I am with you alway” at the close of Matthew. Such Love is the all-encompassing Comforter. It is what we learn from our loved ones about Love. And we get to keep it forever.

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Who heals all thy diseases…

Incurable? Maybe not.

The August 27, 2015 Business Insider article portrays a married couple, Scott and Dana, who applied their skills as engineers to managing their diabetes. Determined to overcome the clunky mechanics of a type-one diabetic lifestyle, they literally hacked the computer “brain” of an obsolete insulin pump, and developed mathematical algorithms that learn, predict, and adjust for an individual’s bodily changes. Dana is now beta-testing an artificial pancreas. Their pioneering spirit and invincible “no-limits” mentality inspire and amaze.  But underneath the newlyweds’ expected long and prosperous future, lies the stubborn verdict of incurability–a subtle message that even the smartest and most proactive watchers of their health can only expect to manage what is considered an incurable disease.

Our culture seems to support the notion that there may never be a cure.  Organizations like the American Diabetes Association do not mention “cure” but encourage contributions to help “move closer to a cure” and to support those affected by diabetes with research information, education and advocacy.   Vascular Pharmaceuticals, a Chapel Hill pharma, dedicates its work to “addressing the complications of diabetes.” No one can oppose these compassionate efforts, but can we only resign to manage rather than cure disease?

From the perspective that man is purely biological, this verdict may appear reasonable, but from a spiritual perspective, where God is all powerful Love, there is every reason to hope.  In Genesis (1:26), God creates us in His image and likeness, blessed with spiritual sovereignty, and the Scriptures include many examples of how God’s unconditional love brings salvation, healing and cure.

It can happen today, too. Rosario Iris Corrotti experienced God’s powerful love in her healing of diabetes. In the May 14, 2015 Christian Science Journal Web Original, she recounts her struggle with diabetes and the transformation that started to occur when a friend offered her some things to read that fundamentally changed her concept of God to one of impartial, universal Love.  “The symptoms of diabetes disappeared and never came back,” she wrote.  “For me it was as though the chains—all those bonds that had kept me bound—had been broken. I had woken up to a completely new life.”

The Psalmist describes the power and willingness of God to completely heal those who turn to Him. “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits: Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases; Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies; Who satisfieth thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle’s. The Lord executeth righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.” (Psalms 103)

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Are green spaces healing spaces?

Studies say a hike improves mental health. This is especially true if it helps one get a higher, more spiritual perspective on life.

I relish the day when my friend calls and says “we need to go for a walk.”  Her call is “code” for “let’s go hiking, so we can get spiritually above all this stuff that’s going on right now.”  Even though we climb low hills and rarely log more than six miles, our conversation climbs up out of our everyday challenges and we encourage each other to look at things from a higher, more spiritual, perspective.

Currently there are numerous studies expounding the health benefits of spending more time in natural greenspaces. For instance, in her June, 2015 article, “How walking in nature prevents depression,” Olga Khazan of The Atlantic reports on an in-depth study showing how natural environments are restorative and confer psychological benefits. And in Mark’s Daily Apple post, 16 Ways Green Space Improves your Life, blogger Mark Sisson shares 16 scientifically tested outdoor settings that have been linked to better mental and physical health.  He concludes, “We tend to focus on physical health, but mental health (which isn’t really separate from physical health) is arguably more reliant on regular exposure to green space.”  No one from the Pacific Northwest would argue these findings, but is it merely being in nature that improves our well-being?  Or could it be that hiking gives us an opportunity to get closer to the divine?

History says so.  The early religious pilgrimages involved extended periods in greenspace, divine inspiration, and presumably, improved mental health. The search for inner peace, mecca or deeper religious understanding carried thousands of soles uncounted miles, sometimes in harsh climates and over jaw-dropping elevations. These treks were not conducted because scientific studies showed a correlation between pilgrims’ hours in the natural world and their overall health and wellbeing.   Huston Smith sums up today’s revival of the pilgrimage as not motivated by the desire for “rest and recreation—to get away from it all. To set out on a pilgrimage,” he writes, “is to throw down a challenge to everyday life.” Yet such quests for spiritual inspiration can bring not only inner peace but physical well-being.

My friend’s pilgrimage provides a good example.  She walked 800 miles across northern Spain on the epic Camino de Santiago trail.  When faced with increased temperatures due to a drop in elevation, her impervious all-weather boots became individual foot-saunas, which resulted in discomfort, swelling and eventually blistering.  At one point, she was in pain because of an infected foot, and she had three hours to walk before she reached the next town. She used the time to turn to God and pray to understand Him better.  Many of her favorite Bible verses, which she realized may have inspired pilgrims thousands of years earlier on this trail, took on deeper meaning as she walked.  This one, from Psalm 91, she found especially relevant:  “For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.  They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.”  Her foot healed before she reached the city, and she finished the rest of the pilgrimage comfortably.

Another friend summited Mount Washington, the highest peak in the Northeastern U.S., a 2,700’ vertical gain in two-and-a-half miles. From the start, he had mostly bouldered trail to scramble, so muscle fatigue and the need for endurance kept my friend on his spiritual game.  Reaching out for a connection with God’s infinite love, he found comforting Bible verses and ideas coming effortlessly to mind.  He grasped the parallel between climbing physically higher and being drawn spiritually higher–closer to God–on this climb.  This quote by spiritual pioneer Mary Baker Eddy was especially helpful: “You say, ‘Toil fatigues me.’ But what is this me? Is it muscle or mind? Which is tired and so speaks? Without mind, could the muscles be tired? Do the muscles talk, or do you talk for them? ” (Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures p. 217 )

Seeing the mental nature of his challenges pushed my friend up and over those challenges.  As he reached the top of Mt. Washington, he realized that because he had consciously taken the opportunity to focus on spiritual ideas during his hike, he was able at last to see the glorious and pure harmony of God’s creation, which had remained unchanged throughout his struggles.  He returned from his hike mentally refreshed and ready to be productive in his work.

In hiking, the important part is to “summit,” to get to that place where, in our heart, we rise above everyday challenges and we don’t allow information from the five physical senses to cloud the pinnacle of God’s beautiful, spiritual creation.   We don’t have to locate ourselves in a forest before we can find spiritual peace!  Here in Oregon, however, it is easy to be in the “green”– there are so many hikes to choose from.  Why not go for a hike, use it as an opportunity to see the mental nature of your challenges, throw them down, and rise to a view of life as Spirit, Love?

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Retiring into our spiritual purpose, ending Alzheimer’s

The Alzheimer’s Association 2015 Report of Facts and Figures, projects the disease to be significantly more prevalent in the next ten years, but such predictions are tied directly to demographics. The overall population is aging, and with the sheer volume of boomers reaching ages beyond 75, Alzheimer’s cases in Oregon alone are anticipated to increase 35-44%.
Happily, some researchers are pointing us toward current trends that show how these projections could reverse. Most notable is the recent Rush University Medical Center study on aging that indicates the positive effect of meaningful and spiritual purpose in one’s life.

Currently, there are several well respected organizations validating Rush University Medical Center’s conclusions. For instance, the recent Alzheimer’s campaign presented by the Center for Applied Research in Dementia, Cameron J. Camp, Ph.D. (Director of Research and Development), challenges the common practice of calling Alzheimer’s a “disease” and opts instead to re-class it as a “syndrome,” thereby allowing society to integrate patients into mainstream culture and create opportunities for all to feel worthy and to have genuine purpose.

In Cleveland, Ohio, Peter Whitehouse, M.D., Ph.D. is successfully proving this approach. He and his wife founded the Intergenerational Charter Schools, where noteworthy academic achievement resulted when inner-city youngsters were paired with local retirees. Since their inception, Dr. Whitehouse has since conducted studies with the schools which provide evidence that elders are more mentally healthy when they have a reason to “stay alive, a genuine sense of purpose, and a community in which to do it.” In fact, the research connecting purposeful lives with healthy minds is so conclusive, that the 2015 White House Conference on Aging announced that the Surgeon General is working with YMCA’s across the country to host intergenerational events this summer to help inspire everyone to move more.

Moving more, especially while mixing generations, may be helpful, but it may fall short of the underlying need of elders. Dr. Whitehouse frames aging as our “unique ability to grow spiritually and mentally.” Will the American dream of retirement into a quiet, independent lifestyle, coupled with exercise class and regular volunteer work, support and push us to “grow spiritually and mentally”? The essence of this growth points to more than the mechanics of obligatory Zumba class and weekly shifts at the animal shelter. It is getting so inspired and spiritually invested, that we see past age limitations, we see beyond the boundaries of our peer defined lifestyle, and we thrive because we are genuinely striving to fulfill our divine purpose.

I have a friend who falls within the dementia-prone demographic and sometimes faces memory -related symptoms. I visit her often and have observed that reuniting with her spiritual purpose provides her better mental stability when symptoms flare up. We might, for instance, read the first chapter of Genesis and talk about how God creates everyone “in His image and likeness”. We often discuss His purpose and intent, and connect it with our own divine reason for being: to express His love and patience in our everyday experience and to bless those around us. We might share gratitude about our mutual blessings that come every time we meet.

Bible citations like these speak straight to the heart of my friend and me: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (II Timothy) and “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee.” (Isaiah). Reaching out in prayer to God and affirming God’s divine nature as eternal good keeps my own thought filled with expectancy of good. These short visits with my friend invariably result in a healthy and grounded mental atmosphere, which means genuine comfort for both of us. Her family too, has noted the opportunity for longer and higher quality visits with her.

Understanding our purpose from a spiritual perspective brings staying power to our God-directed activity and hope to the victims of dementia. Mary Baker Eddy, who founded a daily print newspaper at the age of 86 and was mentally healthy throughout her entire life, advocated for health through spiritual laws. In her seminal work Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, she speaks of forsaking “the foundation of material systems, however time honored,” and later promises that “the purpose and motive to live aright can be gained now.”

For me, our culture’s mental health hinges on the willingness to think through the time-honored medical system of diagnosis, prescription, and eventual decline, and challenge its roots. Is it based on divine law or is it contrived by human convention? As more and more scientists like Dr. Camp and Dr. Whitehouse disprove the effectiveness of time-honored treatments, and we all (doctors, scientists and “all of us”) reach for inspired, spiritual solutions, the disappearance of Alzheimer’s is a definite possibility. “There is an end in sight!”

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Who should be worthy of forgiveness?

When I show up on Sunday mornings, I like to wake things up a bit. I like to send the kids off with some new spiritual tools to rev up the “normal” in their weeks. As a high school Sunday school teacher, I make sure that I am really, really prepared… podcasts, videos, new music, thought- provoking questions.  Also, I am equally prepared to toss the prep work and listen to what these kids need to discuss.  Last Sunday was one of those times when I threw aside my plans.

The first question went like this, “How do I get peace?  You know… after that shooting thing in South Carolina?  What was that about?”

I had been researching material for a column on forgiveness anyway, so I had the stripped down answer: “forgiveness = peace.”

“Ahhh.” (pause – heads nodding in agreement) “So what does that mean?”  We discussed Nelson Mandela’s decided freedom from all anger, bitterness or resentment, when released from prison. That was forgiveness. We touched on Joseph –  thrown by his brothers into a pit and left to die.  He then became a respected leader and ultimately saved those same brothers from starvation. That was forgiveness.  We talked about Jesus on the cross and his plea, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” That was definitely forgiveness.

These cases of forgiveness contributed not only to the well-being of the forgiver, but also to the welfare of future generations.  All of this was profound, especially since it was still pretty early in the morning for a bunch of teenagers. I was pleased with the depth of our conversation and ready to get on with my lesson plans. Oops, not so fast.

Their second question went like this, “Great, but how’d they do it?”

My turn for a pause. I did have an example in thought, since I had been researching forgiveness. So, I shared my own story of sweat-equity-investment in volunteerism, a carefully planned, team project that turned to chaos on presentation day. It was narrowly (but effectively) righted, and when the dust settled, just one person lingered on my grudge list. That grudge grew and got carried around for awhile (ok, a couple of years). Finally, forgiveness was found and the new friendship was well under way.

In my case, realizing forgiveness happened in a moment; it was a revelation of sorts.  I perceived that we had both been doing our best, that the other guy was innocent – in fact, so was I. That realization, (which I gratefully attribute to God) gave me a painless opportunity to forgive and it gave me peace.  I was aware, too, that if we spent our future careers avoiding one another.  Well let’s just say that  as allies, the possibility to work on a project together that would bless our fellow humans (at least a small pocket of them) was much better.

So, realizing another’s innocence, is the key to “how they did it.”  (At least that’s what I told the class.)

With the question, “how do you do it?” now turned back to the class, we decided to try it – we decided to realize the innocence of the South Carolina shooter.  Out loud, we talked through the account in Genesis 1 of man created “in His image and likeness” – pure and innocent. We reasoned through the spiritual nature of God and came to the conclusion that since God is Spirit, we all must be inherently spiritual.  Why would He create anything less than Spirit?  We talked about God’s infinite goodness – we are His image, so we must also express infinite goodness.  In infinity, there isn’t really room for “badness” to be expressed or experienced.  We also found a connection with one another at a very foundational level – that we all share one Father – there was a deep sense of unity in Love; even with the shooter in South Carolina.

And that is how we never got to my lesson plan last Sunday.

It’s said that “unforgiveness is sort of like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.” (Marianne Williamson)  That lingering sense of injustice, unreleased anger, or unwillingness to let “them” off the hook, can make it difficult to forgive and can lead to chronic stress and a host of health issues.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, is defined by treating an offender as not guilty (Webster’s 1828 Dictionary).  By so doing, one finds peace, freedom to progress; even goodness.  Forgiveness is clinically linked to relieving stress, boosting the immune system and improving one’s overall health.  Psychologists and world thinkers alike, all get back to that same point – to forgive, the offender must ultimately be held innocent in our own hearts and then treated that way.

The interesting thing about forgiveness, is this: It starts with an individual and remains the work of the individual but when it is accomplished, it blesses not only the health and well being of that individual but the community and world in which she lives.

Jonathan Lockwood Huie says, “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”  My Sunday school class would say, “Forgive others because God created them innocent so they’re worth it, and because all mankind deserves peace.”

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Here’s the rock – here’s the hard place. Now what?

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We don’t see it coming, we only get two choices and both choices are completely unacceptable.  What do we do?

We are handed a first-thing-tomorrow deadline, for instance.  Because of expensive and once-in-a-lifetime plans for tonight, we say “no”.  Left with no other choice, the boss issues an ultimatum, “… get it on my desk by 8:00 A.M.”

We can:

1) “cancel plans”

2) “leave career”

Both options – unsatisfactory.

And then it happens again…

Facing repeated “no-way-out” endings can affect health and wellbeing, reports the ADAA, and anxiety or depression can ensue.  Statistics show that these two  disorders are the most common mental illnesses in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults. These “lesser of two evils” scenes don’t happen  just at work; they can take place in our marriages, our families, and our communities.

In her article,  Caught between a rock and a hard place,  psychologist and author, Beth Fisher-Yoshida Ph.D., CCS, suggests hopeful strategies that engage both parties in creating a solution while promoting the wellbeing of all. In the situation above, for example, the manager might ask for solutions and offer his support to meet the corporate deadline. It’s a strategy that reminds me of the Golden Rule, simply stated: “Do to others as you would have them do to you”.

During my professional years, I learned that effective and timely resolutions meant nobody feeling belittled, martyred or compromised – myself included. Rarely, however, was there time for a group “think tank”.  Instead, it meant dropping my solution and giving the team some time to think things through.

That is when I would turn to the proverb “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)  This Scripture and the rule, “do it the way I’d want it done to me,” helped me be free of distrust, skepticism or subtle power-plays, and opened me up for new solutions.

Once free of my own concerns, the atmosphere was happier and more positive and the team often came to some great creative solutions.

Take a page from my “non-profit event-planning” days. We contracted a venue that was perfect in every way, but included significant costs that might land in the planning team’s pockets.The team asked me to back out of the deaI.

I explained my dilemma to the venue and ripped up the contract.

Sadly, there were no other “right” venues in the market, and despite the planning team’s best efforts, I knew we would now have to contract with the lesser of two unsatisfactory options.

Wracked with worry, I dreaded the consequences of:

  1. either contracting with the “least of the wrong” venues or

  2. cancelling the whole event

The rock-and-hard-place, felt more like a trash compactor.

Three weeks passed.  The team wasn’t finding that creative solution.

That morning, I took my Bible with me to my volunteer post.  Once there, it was peaceful, allowing me time to read and really let my heart listen to the Word. My head stopped swimming and I went from “how am I going to solve this?” to “calm down and yield to God’s plan.”

I began to see this as an opportunity to allow fresh inspiration to lead my team to previously unseen solutions. Buoyed with that favorite verse from Proverbs, I got a nudge to read a favorite article, “God’s law of adjustment”,  which gave me a very real trust in God’s promise of tangible goodness, “the same yesterday, and today, and forever,” (see Hebrews 13:8).

Suddenly, I felt an inner calm.  I knew there was an unrealized and excellent solution, that would involve no compromises.

That afternoon, the cancelled venue, unexpectedly called.  They were happy and eager to accommodate all our needs and meet our cost criteria as well. Ultimately the event blessed all.

Although very nearly squashed in the trash compactor of fear, I did not have to live with the anxiety of a compromised choice nor did I have to pick the lesser-of-two-evils. My sleep returned to normal, my stomach settled, and my team-compatibility ratings improved.

Whether we are feeling that “rock and hard place” because of situations at work, in our  family, among friends or in our community, it’s good to know there is an “out”. We don’t need to feel responsible, manipulated or victimized by unsatisfactory options.

A wise friend summed it up for me later.  When life offers you just two options, it’s bluffing.  Hold out for the inspired, third option; let God lead the way.

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Fasting out of Cancer

Fasting – it’s trendy right now, promising everything from weight loss to a cure for cancer. Fasting hearkens back to a variety of ancient traditions and, in some, carries with it the promise of spiritual clarity and physical healing.  In numerous Biblical accounts, for example, fasting was practiced in deep times of need (Job), in times of mourning and as intercessory prayer (Nehemiah and Daniel after Jerusalem had been desolated) and in times of much needed spiritual strength (Jesus fasts forty days in the wilderness and returns to heal the masses).

Although the writings are ancient, to me these accounts don’t feel so far  from our modern headlines. The call for fasting, old or new, remains a part of our world’s culture. And modern medicine is increasingly trying to determine what actual health value it might have. For some, a prolonged period in which one abstains from solid food supports mental acuteness, bodily cleansing, and even physical healing.  One recent study, published in the March 30, 2015 Oncotarget, reports positive lab results for cancer victims associated with short fasts.

 Still, consider another general medical opinion – WebMD presents fasting as only marginally safe and a relatively unsustainable method for losing weight.  “…the risks far outweigh any benefits, and ultimately, fasting can cause more harm than good.”   Despite the hopeful reports, fasting is not for everyone.  Patients that fast frequently find themselves drained both in body and mind, which can lead to other problems.

And in some cases, fasting just isn’t an option. Take Christian healer and health-pioneer Mary Baker Eddy, who as a young woman experimented with numerous curative methods – including forms of fasting – to treat her own illnesses.  After enduring an extended fast that left her worse off, she turned away from fasting as a medical treatment.   But Eddy then turned  to her deep heritage of Bible study, where she grasped a practical sense of God’s abundant promise to sustain His creation. She realized that God didn’t make a law that fasting from food was a means of health.   Ultimately, she came to the conclusion that to be whole and healthy she had to stop relying on a material solution and undertake a more spiritual kind of fasting. As she put it,  “…abandon so fast as practical the material, and to work out the spiritual which determines the outward and actual.” Abandon the material?  Isn’t that harder than abstaining from food?  When my close relative was diagnosed with cancer, I experienced the healing power of this kind of fasting for myself.  I had emotions, fears and expectations of unsavory, ugly, life-experiences. The medical care provider offered counselling and support resources to help cope with the impending flurry of procedures and treatments. All of this happened right on top of the holidays. The stress of it all threatened not only my mental but also my physical well being. I made some time to pray – to quiet my thinking and to affirm my unbreakable relationship with goodness – God, divine Love.  The inspiration then came to me to mentally and emotionally fast from the clinical and emotional expectations commonly associated with this experience, and to expect a peaceful future based on the changeless love of God for both my relative and me.  This inspiration provided me comfort and protection – a better understanding of God’s care. There was a promise of hope. That said, it was not easy.  I had to refuse to respond to the alarms and video loops of “what if’s” that kept playing out in my head. Making a conscious effort to abstain from fear-filled anxiety was the toughest “fast” of my life. A favorite verse from Jeremiah helped me the most: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” As I practiced denying fear — giving it no room in my consciousness — I gained some momentum.  I found I had the strength to quickly refuse the random, crazy emotional blasts. With that, I moved through the holidays at a normal, festive pace. It was New Year’s Eve, the results from the first surgery were back, and  they were all negative. They couldn’t find the cancer, there was no cancer, no further treatment was needed.  Those worrisome “what-if” scenarios did not come to pass. In society today, the physical fast can’t meet everyone’s needs, but a mental fast from fear, gloomy expectations and what-if scenarios offers us all an effective tool to rest and heal.

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How to Get Rid of a Tension Headache

“We all have the right to expect pain-free, balanced days.”  I couldn’t agree with Ingrid Peschke more on that point.  As a young woman she suffered debilitating migraine headaches that just intensified as she grew older, married, and had children.

I know several people who suffer from these headaches.  Even though I’ve never had one, I can tell that to the sufferer they are real and serious. It might take days for the condition to subside.

Ingrid found a solution that permanently healed her headaches.  What she did, though, might not be what you would expect.  read more…

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Can Twentysomething Depression Be Healed?

I have a friend who was suicidal.  He once told me, “Unless you’ve been there you have no idea what it’s like to be in that dark place. I genuinely believed that the world would be better off without me.”  He no longer has those thoughts and is a much healthier and happier person.

Suicide is a serious problem, especially amongst teens and young people.  My British colleague Tony Lobl explores this issue, and found in his research that “19 percent of young people in the United States either contemplate or attempt suicide every year.” That’s a lot!

Tony interviews a young woman, Patricia Brugioni, who had thoughts of suicide but overcame them.  But not in the way you might expect. She says, “I knew there were unresolved things in my heart, like huge whales swimming beneath the surface of my thought.”

“Eventually I went along with…[taking]  medication. But years later, reading back through my journal, I realised it had only been at this point that my depression turned suicidal.”

That was Brugioni’s experience – a long struggle with manic depression throughout her teens and twenties and, then, a healing.” read more…

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Finding Your Indomitable Spirit to Defeat Addiction

Challenges are a part of life and we all face them at some time.  Mostly they’re every day little bumps in the road that are easily overcome and quickly forgotten without any lasting consequence.  There are times, however, when the challenge is so overwhelming that the ability to rebound would seem nearly impossible. Yet, there are remarkable examples where individuals and nations persevere to surmount something and become even stronger than before.

My colleague, Don Ingwerson, examines how we can draw upon the “indomitable spirit” within when we face these challenges. And, he raises this interesting question when the challenge seems to be the grip of addiction: “[H]ow does a person embrace this Spirit when drug addiction from treating a pain so many times results in a lack of hope, faith, and trust – qualities that are fundamental components to recovery from pain and addiction? The answer is…” [read full article]


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    A lifelong resident of Oregon, Karla Hackney writes about the connection between spirituality and health from her perspective as a Christian Science healer. She also serves as the media and legislative ... Read Full
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