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Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

Balancing Act: Serving Others Without Abandoning Ourselves

The last couple of weeks we have been discussing ways to detach from people we love who are causing us pain and living lives of dysfunction. We have explored the limits of helping and how in some cases helping can be detrimental both to us and those we love. However, stopping long held patterns of [...]

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Help Yourself: How to Cultivate Inner Peace When Someone You Love Struggles With Life

When people discover I am a mental health counselor they often tell me about family members struggling with mental illness or addiction. They tell stories of trying desperately to help, of money spent, of nights searching bars and calling hospitals looking for their sister, daughter, son or husband. They tell of despair, of hopelessness, of [...]

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When a Loved One Has Problems: Are You Helping or Hurting?

It can be incredibly painful to watch someone we love doing destructive things that damage themselves or others. And part of the pain we feel is often our sense of helplessness. Why can’t we figure out how to help the person we love stop drinking, or gaming, get a job, get out of bed, pay [...]

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Do You Have to Be Crazy to See a Counselor?

Many people think that you have to be “crazy” or extremely dysfunctional to seek out the services of a mental health counselor. The truth is that most people can benefit. Here are some of the best reasons to see a counselor • Manage anxiety. Everyone experiences stress and anxiety. In therapy you can learn ways [...]

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Sleep Glorious Sleep: How to Get More of What We Need For Health and Well-Being

There is almost nothing that can make us more vulnerable than lack of sleep. When we are sleep deprived our ability to cope with emotions, solve problems and act effectively is drastically reduced. Everything seems more difficult. On the other hand, when we are sleeping well and feel rested we are happier and more satisfied [...]

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What I Owe the Tango: Overcoming Fear, Finding Freedom

When I was a little girl my mom said I had stiff back. She reasoned this must be the problem since I had such a hard time doing somersaults and couldn’t stand on my head to save my life. Cart-wheels were out of the questions. My mom on the other hand was five feet, two [...]

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What I Owe My Son’s Mental Illness: Another Dangerous Opportunity

I loved being pregnant. When I carried my first born inside me he was safe and I controlled everything. I ate healthy foods, never drank alcohol or even took a Tylenol. I took naps and tried to think positive thoughts. I just knew he would grow up to be beautiful, smart, talented, motivated and full [...]

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What I Owe: How I Grew Through Crisis

In the Chinese language the symbol for crisis has a dual meaning, both danger, but also critical-point, perhaps a turning point or opportunity. Indeed, crisis is often a dangerous opportunity. I have certainly found that to be true in my own life. For it is in the midst of despair, fear, loss, or a difficult [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage It – Part 4

Shame often has a long shadow.  Even when we have worked to take responsibility and make amends, or to take a stand for ourselves and reveal our secrets in safety and acceptance, it can hang around and cause pain. Healing and releasing our shame is a process that often takes time and patience.  In my [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage it – Part 3

What do we do when we feel ashamed and that shame is inspired by our authentic internal sense of morality? The first step is to acknowledge, if possible, the error of our ways.  This means admitting our culpability.  Keeping secrets almost always makes shame grow, so finding someone you can trust and telling them can [...]

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