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Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

What I Owe My Son’s Mental Illness: Another Dangerous Opportunity

I loved being pregnant. When I carried my first born inside me he was safe and I controlled everything. I ate healthy foods, never drank alcohol or even took a Tylenol. I took naps and tried to think positive thoughts. I just knew he would grow up to be beautiful, smart, talented, motivated and full [...]

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What I Owe: How I Grew Through Crisis

In the Chinese language the symbol for crisis has a dual meaning, both danger, but also critical-point, perhaps a turning point or opportunity. Indeed, crisis is often a dangerous opportunity. I have certainly found that to be true in my own life. For it is in the midst of despair, fear, loss, or a difficult [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage It – Part 4

Shame often has a long shadow.  Even when we have worked to take responsibility and make amends, or to take a stand for ourselves and reveal our secrets in safety and acceptance, it can hang around and cause pain. Healing and releasing our shame is a process that often takes time and patience.  In my [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage it – Part 3

What do we do when we feel ashamed and that shame is inspired by our authentic internal sense of morality? The first step is to acknowledge, if possible, the error of our ways.  This means admitting our culpability.  Keeping secrets almost always makes shame grow, so finding someone you can trust and telling them can [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage It – Part 2

Shame can be a powerful emotion.  We often feel it in our body and act it out in our behavior and speech.  When we feel ashamed, embarrassed, humiliated, self-conscious, or shy, these are all forms of shame.  The pit of our stomach may get tense, fluttery or painful, our face may flush. We may have [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage It

Imagine sitting on the ground in a cave. Leftover meat has been cleared away after an evening meal, and beside you a fire burns brightly. Outside, the wind howls and a fierce rain pelts the trees. You feel satisfied, safe and warm. But, you know that your choices and behavior in the next moments will [...]

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The Healing Power of Nature

A few weeks ago, I was experiencing a great deal of sadness. (Yes, even therapists deal with loss and grief.) It was a dark time and I was struggling to maintain my equilibrium and energy for the work and people I love. So when the opportunity to go on a hike with my husband materialized [...]

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Sleep Tight: Making Your Bed, Body and Mind Ready for Rest

There is almost nothing that can make us more vulnerable than lack of sleep. When we are sleep deprived our ability to cope with emotions, solve problems and act effectively is drastically reduced. Everything seems more difficult. On the other hand, when we are sleeping well and feel rested we are happier and more satisfied [...]

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How I Became Radical: The Power of Acceptance

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers My initial encounter with radical acceptance took place when I lay down for the first time on a yoga mat. Our teacher, Mari Gayatri, taught mindfulness yoga. She instructed us to follow our breath in and [...]

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Your Brain on Love

As far as the brain is concerned, the first throws of love are no different than the high that comes from heroin. In fact, when we fall for someone our brain goes into overdrive producing adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, powerful naturally occurring brain chemicals that put us in an altered state. Dopamine creates a [...]

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