Author Archives: Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

Naps Are Good for You

I wish I could nap. But, I’ve never been someone who could lie down in the afternoon, close my eyes and take a snooze. I wish I could! I watch my husband do it. He can fall into a blissful sleep within minutes of arranging himself on the bed, sleep for a while and wake [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Media Diet: Lose the Weight of the World

If you watch a lot of mainstream television, you might think our community is a dangerous place. You might even believe there are more terrible things going on than kindness and beauty. But you would be wrong. You would also most likely be anxious, depressed, fearful and cynical. A steady diet of media and popular [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Our Place in History Affects Mental Health

I began working as a mental health therapist four years ago. It was a time when the great recession, which began in a blinding crash in 2008, was still winding its poison tendrils through our community. Today, the effects of that worldwide financial crisis are still dramatically affecting our lives. This has been a time [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Keeps Us From Forgiving?

Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like taking poison and then hoping your enemies will die.” This, from a man whose enemies imprisoned him for a good share of his life. If ever a person had the opportunity to learn about resentment and forgiveness, he did. And, apparently he learned that hatred, bitterness and harboring [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Recipe for Making LOVE Last

Ingredients: Listen deeply Open-up: Take the risk to reveal your tender places. Be vulnerable. Validate: You may not agree, but you can search for what makes sense from your partner’s point of view. Evolve: Invest in your own growth, development and self-care. When we feel good about ourselves we are better partners. Directions: Sift 2 [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Staying Connected To The One We Love

The last two weeks I have been writing about a new way of understanding love relationships, based on the idea that we are meant to be bonded to our mate, and that the way we were nurtured, or not, in childhood, shows up in how we relate to our lover. The really good news is [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Interdependency: The Key to a Successful Love Relationship – Part 2

When we are in conflict with our spouse or partner there is almost always something else going on underneath the anger and the details of the argument. We are not fighting about the kids or the laundry or the dirty socks on the floor, although these can easily be the catalyst for our rage. No, [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Interdependency: The Key to a Successful Love Relationship

Our culture is steeped in the idea that to be successful in love we must be independent and strong. Neediness can be seen as a dirty word, and relying on our partner is often considered weak or co-dependent. But what if reliance on our mate is exactly what evolution has primed us for? What if [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Write Your Way to Healing

When many people think of writing, they unfortunately often think of their dreaded high school English class or the research paper they suffered through in college. But, what if writing can be used to transform your life? What if writing can heal? Journaling is effective, low cost and efficient. It is a way to understand [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Do You Long to Write?

Writing has been one of the ways I’ve made meaning, and sometimes beauty, from the things that have happened in my life. For many years I belonged to a women’s writing group where every week we would read our work, talk about writing and share our lives. Before that, I was fortunate to have skilled [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment
  • About The Author

    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
  • Categories

  • Archives