Author Archives: Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

Listening Skills for the Brave and Passionate: Taking it to the Next Level

The last few blog posts have been all about listening; what gets in the way, why listening is important and how listening well can enhance our relationships. So, if you have read and practiced the skills presented so far, now is your chance to take it to the next level by learning the components of [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Listen Like You Mean it!

There is almost nothing better than when someone really listens to us and we get the sense that they understand exactly what we are saying and how we feel about it. The following skills will help you become a better listener and if you practice them, improve your relationships. How to Listen Well: Stop talking. [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“What Most People Really Need is a Good Listening to…” Mary Lou Casey

Listening deeply is a skill that can improve our lives and relationships in profound ways. But most of us just don’t know how to do it. We don’t know how to communicate that we understand, not just the nuts and bolts of what is being said, but also the feelings and needs of the speaker. [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Texting is Not Talking

If you own a cell phone and use it for texting, it has probably happened to you. One minute you are having what seems to be a perfectly calm, rational “discussion” via text, and then. . .your spouse, friend or colleague sends you 100 words of bitter outrage, that you never saw coming. The next [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Menopause: What’s it Good For? Part 2

An awareness of menopause as developmental, and interpretation of it as an opportunity for positive growth, are new ways of understanding this time in a woman’s life. In the recent past, “the change” has been described, mostly by male physicians, as a sad time of loss, in which women’s primary purpose, than of child bearing, [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Menopause: What’s it Good For?

The Possibility of Reinvention Women have an inherent passage at mid-life that is often the harbinger of reinvention: menopause. It is through this biological, social and neurological stage of development that many women redefine their identity, reorganize their priorities and become powerful creators in the world. Because women now have many more years to live [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why a Broken Heart Feels Like a Punch in the Gut and What to Do About It

Everyone has been there. A relationship ends, whether through divorce, death, distance or calculated decision, and we are in pain. It hurts. We feel as if our heart was being ruthlessly squeezed and our guts twisted and flayed. Or, there is a sense of stabbing pain in the chest or stomach. And, if we didn’t [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Top Ten Reasons Why Trying to Solve Other People’s Problems is a Bad Idea

1. We don’t really know what is best for someone else. Often a person’s greatest growth comes from struggle and pain. If we fix things for those we love, we rob them of the opportunity to meet life’s difficulties and learn from them. 2. We don’t have control. Trying to fix other’s problems means we [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Women and Conflict: How the Female Brain is Wired to Respond

There was a time when the struggle for equality between the sexes meant minimizing or even denying differences between men and women. We gave our boys baby dolls and our girls fire trucks, and believed that male and female traits were primarily learned, and we could change behavior and thought by changing the environment. Current [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Saved by a Poem?

It is one of the moments I cherish most. Somehow, through the magic of our interaction, my client has come upon an insight, a truth, a new perspective or even perhaps, a grief, long buried. As I watch this unfold, tears often come, we breathe together and the weight of new understanding begins to settle. [...]

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment
  • About The Author

    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
  • Categories

  • Archives