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Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

Menopause: What’s it Good For? Part 2

An awareness of menopause as developmental, and interpretation of it as an opportunity for positive growth, are new ways of understanding this time in a woman’s life. In the recent past, “the change” has been described, mostly by male physicians, as a sad time of loss, in which women’s primary purpose, than of child bearing, [...]

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Menopause: What’s it Good For?

The Possibility of Reinvention Women have an inherent passage at mid-life that is often the harbinger of reinvention: menopause. It is through this biological, social and neurological stage of development that many women redefine their identity, reorganize their priorities and become powerful creators in the world. Because women now have many more years to live [...]

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Why a Broken Heart Feels Like a Punch in the Gut and What to Do About It

Everyone has been there. A relationship ends, whether through divorce, death, distance or calculated decision, and we are in pain. It hurts. We feel as if our heart was being ruthlessly squeezed and our guts twisted and flayed. Or, there is a sense of stabbing pain in the chest or stomach. And, if we didn’t [...]

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Top Ten Reasons Why Trying to Solve Other People’s Problems is a Bad Idea

1. We don’t really know what is best for someone else. Often a person’s greatest growth comes from struggle and pain. If we fix things for those we love, we rob them of the opportunity to meet life’s difficulties and learn from them. 2. We don’t have control. Trying to fix other’s problems means we [...]

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Women and Conflict: How the Female Brain is Wired to Respond

There was a time when the struggle for equality between the sexes meant minimizing or even denying differences between men and women. We gave our boys baby dolls and our girls fire trucks, and believed that male and female traits were primarily learned, and we could change behavior and thought by changing the environment. Current [...]

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Saved by a Poem?

It is one of the moments I cherish most. Somehow, through the magic of our interaction, my client has come upon an insight, a truth, a new perspective or even perhaps, a grief, long buried. As I watch this unfold, tears often come, we breathe together and the weight of new understanding begins to settle. [...]

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Letters You Will Never Send: The Art of Journaling for Self-Awareness and Healing

When many people think of writing, they unfortunately often think of their dreaded high school English class or the research paper they suffered through in college. But, what if writing can be used to transform your life? What if writing can heal? Journaling is effective, low cost and efficient. It is a way to understand [...]

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Can We Give Up Grief?

When I was 26, my mother died. It was a difficult death. She suffered and longed to leave, but lingered, in pain and semi-consciousness. My last act as a daughter was to give her sips of water and promise to miss her…and to finish my education. I have accomplished both. The education part came in [...]

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Do You Really Need Drugs to Treat Depression?

    For the past 30 years whenever someone seems depressed, the answer has been an antidepressant.  Most people get this prescription from their doctor after a 15 minute assessment.  But is that really the best approach?  Antidepressants often have unwanted side effects, are expensive and may even contribute to a life-long cycle of depression. [...]

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Finding a Meaningful Life

“The best way to find yourself, is to lose yourself in the service of others.” Mahatma Gandi I am always looking, along with my clients, for the choices that bring greater meaning and peace to life. Together we wrestle with the questions, “How can my life be meaningful?” And, “How can I balance freedom and [...]

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