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Lois Schlegel

Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and teens and worked with survivors of domestic violence. She has been a facilitator for Winterspring’€™s Loss and Mindfulness group and participated in a year-long clinical counseling internship at La Clinica. Lois has treated clients with a wide variety of mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship and communication problems, job loss, menopause, chronic illness and pain.

Lois’€™s background also includes teaching writing and facilitating experiential groups for artists and writers. She is a published writer and poet herself and believes in the power of the creative to heal.

In her practice, Lois combines a Humanistic approach to counseling with the latest intervention strategies derived from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Positive Psychology and Existential orientations. She often works with clients to incorporate mindfulness, relaxation techniques, exercise and auxiliary support such as Al Anon and AA, as well as bibliotherapy, writing and other creative pursuits.

A Dark Night of Healing and Hope

We are nearing winter solstice (December 21st) a day that will be the shortest in this cycle around the sun, a day with more darkness than light. When I think of this celestial event it reminds me of the expression, “a dark night of the soul” and how our human experience can parallel the cycles [...]

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Redefining Family

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” Jane Howard As an only child, who lost both of my parents by the time I was 25, I have long struggled with a sense that I struck out [...]

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Appreciating Clouds: Year-Round Gratitude

Listening to the radio the other day I heard a man describe an organization he created called “The Cloud Appreciation Society” (Listen to this TED Radio Talk Here.)  He told about how he and a small group of people often took time to stop and admire clouds in all their billowy, feathery, transitory beauty.  That [...]

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Happy Holidays? Surviving and Even Thriving in the Dark Times

The winter holidays come in the midst of ever darkening days when long afternoon shadows and cold winds seem to whip up feelings and memories along with the shaggy leaves. The weather and the short, dark days reflect for many of us a season not of joy and celebration, but instead, a time filled with [...]

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Listening Skills for the Brave and Passionate: Taking it to the Next Level

The last few blog posts have been all about listening; what gets in the way, why listening is important and how listening well can enhance our relationships. So, if you have read and practiced the skills presented so far, now is your chance to take it to the next level by learning the components of [...]

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Listen Like You Mean it!

There is almost nothing better than when someone really listens to us and we get the sense that they understand exactly what we are saying and how we feel about it. The following skills will help you become a better listener and if you practice them, improve your relationships. How to Listen Well: Stop talking. [...]

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“What Most People Really Need is a Good Listening to…” Mary Lou Casey

Listening deeply is a skill that can improve our lives and relationships in profound ways. But most of us just don’t know how to do it. We don’t know how to communicate that we understand, not just the nuts and bolts of what is being said, but also the feelings and needs of the speaker. [...]

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Why Texting is Not Talking

If you own a cell phone and use it for texting, it has probably happened to you. One minute you are having what seems to be a perfectly calm, rational “discussion” via text, and then. . .your spouse, friend or colleague sends you 100 words of bitter outrage, that you never saw coming. The next [...]

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Menopause: What’s it Good For? Part 2

An awareness of menopause as developmental, and interpretation of it as an opportunity for positive growth, are new ways of understanding this time in a woman’s life. In the recent past, “the change” has been described, mostly by male physicians, as a sad time of loss, in which women’s primary purpose, than of child bearing, [...]

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Menopause: What’s it Good For?

The Possibility of Reinvention Women have an inherent passage at mid-life that is often the harbinger of reinvention: menopause. It is through this biological, social and neurological stage of development that many women redefine their identity, reorganize their priorities and become powerful creators in the world. Because women now have many more years to live [...]

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