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Why We Blame the Parents

I don’t know about you, but I often hear people say things like, “His parents really raised him right,” when good things happen for a young person. Or, “Her parents must have let her run wild,” when a teen or adult child gets into trouble. But is that really true? Are parents mostly to blame [...]

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Help Yourself: How to Cultivate Inner Peace When Someone You Love Struggles With Life

When people discover I am a mental health counselor they often tell me about family members struggling with mental illness or addiction. They tell stories of trying desperately to help, of money spent, of nights searching bars and calling hospitals looking for their sister, daughter, son or husband. They tell of despair, of hopelessness, of [...]

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Top Ten Reasons Why Trying to Solve Other People’s Problems is a Bad Idea

1. We don’t really know what is best for someone else. Often a person’s greatest growth comes from struggle and pain. If we fix things for those we love, we rob them of the opportunity to meet life’s difficulties and learn from them. 2. We don’t have control. Trying to fix other’s problems means we [...]

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    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
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