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What Keeps Us From Forgiving?

Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like taking poison and then hoping your enemies will die.” This, from a man whose enemies imprisoned him for a good share of his life. If ever a person had the opportunity to learn about resentment and forgiveness, he did. And, apparently he learned that hatred, bitterness and harboring [...]

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Getting Help: It’s Legal, So Now What? Cannabis in the Age of the Corner Pot Store – Part 2

Last week we discussed some of the possible downsides of using Cannabis on a regular basis. If you resonated with any of the concerns offered and would like to quit or reduce use, here are some ideas that could work for you: • Attend a Marijuana Anonymous meeting. In our area there is an in-person [...]

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It’s Legal, So Now What? Cannabis in the Age of the Corner Pot Store

Like so many things in life Cannabis is a duality. It can be valuable as a tool for healing and pleasure, or a catalyst for aimlessness and mental illness. It can provide an occasional evening of enjoyment with friends, or become a lonely prison that saps motivation, adds to depression and ruins your life. It [...]

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How Our Thoughts Create Depression & Anxiety

In the 1960’s and 70’s when the baby boom generation was coming of age the motto was, “If it feels good do it”. During that time of awakening, a whole swath of society, got in touch with feelings. Unlike the more repressed generations that came before, this cohort, and those who have come after, often [...]

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A Time for Kindness

It is hard to find words that offer any comfort in the midst of the painful time we are immersed in after the senseless killings in Roseburg. All I could think of to share is this poem, which doesn’t so much comfort, but instead reminds that we are all connected, that we all suffer, and [...]

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Weeping For Our Delight: The powerful link between love and grief

When I was 26, my mother died. It was a difficult death. She suffered and longed to leave, but lingered, in pain and semi-consciousness. My last act as a daughter was to give her sips of water and promise to miss her…and to finish my education. I have accomplished both. The education part came in [...]

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When a Loved One Has Problems: Are You Helping or Hurting?

It can be incredibly painful to watch someone we love doing destructive things that damage themselves or others. And part of the pain we feel is often our sense of helplessness. Why can’t we figure out how to help the person we love stop drinking, or gaming, get a job, get out of bed, pay [...]

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How I Became Radical: The Power of Acceptance

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers My initial encounter with radical acceptance took place when I lay down for the first time on a yoga mat. Our teacher, Mari Gayatri, taught mindfulness yoga. She instructed us to follow our breath in and [...]

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A Dark Night of Healing and Hope

We are nearing winter solstice (December 21st) a day that will be the shortest in this cycle around the sun, a day with more darkness than light. When I think of this celestial event it reminds me of the expression, “a dark night of the soul” and how our human experience can parallel the cycles [...]

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    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
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