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What Keeps Us From Forgiving?

Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like taking poison and then hoping your enemies will die.” This, from a man whose enemies imprisoned him for a good share of his life. If ever a person had the opportunity to learn about resentment and forgiveness, he did. And, apparently he learned that hatred, bitterness and harboring [...]

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Write Your Way to Healing

When many people think of writing, they unfortunately often think of their dreaded high school English class or the research paper they suffered through in college. But, what if writing can be used to transform your life? What if writing can heal? Journaling is effective, low cost and efficient. It is a way to understand [...]

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Holiday Cheer? Coping with Stress and Sadness this Time of Year

There is an old saying that goes something like this, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.” No time of year is that more true, than at the holidays. Everything in the public environment, in the media and in our own history can conspire to create unrealistic and idealistic expectations for the holidays that few of us can [...]

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Five Drug-Free Ways to Defeat Depression

For the past 30 years whenever someone seems depressed, the answer has been an antidepressant. Most people get this prescription from their doctor after a 15 minute assessment. But is that really the best approach? Antidepressants often have unwanted side effects, are expensive and may even contribute to a life-long cycle of depression. (See studies [...]

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Weeping For Our Delight: The powerful link between love and grief

When I was 26, my mother died. It was a difficult death. She suffered and longed to leave, but lingered, in pain and semi-consciousness. My last act as a daughter was to give her sips of water and promise to miss her…and to finish my education. I have accomplished both. The education part came in [...]

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It’s a Shame: How to Understand and Manage It

Imagine sitting on the ground in a cave. Leftover meat has been cleared away after an evening meal, and beside you a fire burns brightly. Outside, the wind howls and a fierce rain pelts the trees. You feel satisfied, safe and warm. But, you know that your choices and behavior in the next moments will [...]

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A Dark Night of Healing and Hope

We are nearing winter solstice (December 21st) a day that will be the shortest in this cycle around the sun, a day with more darkness than light. When I think of this celestial event it reminds me of the expression, “a dark night of the soul” and how our human experience can parallel the cycles [...]

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Happy Holidays? Surviving and Even Thriving in the Dark Times

The winter holidays come in the midst of ever darkening days when long afternoon shadows and cold winds seem to whip up feelings and memories along with the shaggy leaves. The weather and the short, dark days reflect for many of us a season not of joy and celebration, but instead, a time filled with [...]

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    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
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