Tag Archives: self-care

A Recipe for Making LOVE Last

Ingredients: Listen deeply Open-up: Take the risk to reveal your tender places. Be vulnerable. Validate: You may not agree, but you can search for what makes sense from your partner’s point of view. Evolve: Invest in your own growth, development and self-care. When we feel good about ourselves we are better partners. Directions: Sift 2 [...]

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Balancing Act: Serving Others Without Abandoning Ourselves

The last couple of weeks we have been discussing ways to detach from people we love who are causing us pain and living lives of dysfunction. We have explored the limits of helping and how in some cases helping can be detrimental both to us and those we love. However, stopping long held patterns of [...]

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What I Owe My Son’s Mental Illness: Another Dangerous Opportunity

I loved being pregnant. When I carried my first born inside me he was safe and I controlled everything. I ate healthy foods, never drank alcohol or even took a Tylenol. I took naps and tried to think positive thoughts. I just knew he would grow up to be beautiful, smart, talented, motivated and full [...]

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Happy Holidays? Surviving and Even Thriving in the Dark Times

The winter holidays come in the midst of ever darkening days when long afternoon shadows and cold winds seem to whip up feelings and memories along with the shaggy leaves. The weather and the short, dark days reflect for many of us a season not of joy and celebration, but instead, a time filled with [...]

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Top Ten Reasons Why Trying to Solve Other People’s Problems is a Bad Idea

1. We don’t really know what is best for someone else. Often a person’s greatest growth comes from struggle and pain. If we fix things for those we love, we rob them of the opportunity to meet life’s difficulties and learn from them. 2. We don’t have control. Trying to fix other’s problems means we [...]

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    Lois Schlegel

    Lois Schlegel, MFA, MS, mental health therapist at Life in Bloom Counseling in Medford and Ashland, has 20 years of experience providing services to individuals and families. She has taught parent education and life skills classes to adults and ... Full Profile
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